Autumn Vandiver
I am a trauma-informed relational practitioner specializing in platonic touch and structured connection work (aka professional cuddling). Since 2018, I have worked with adults navigating relational transitions, nervous system dysregulation, and loneliness.
My approach integrates coaching tools, consent-centered facilitation, and nervous system awareness. I do not provide psychotherapy, but I bring careful pacing, clear boundaries, and professional containment to every session.
Services
Online Coaching
Relational and life coaching for adults navigating transition, burnout, identity shifts, or rebuilding after loss. Practical tools grounded in nervous system awareness and boundary clarity.
Private Cuddle Sessions
One-on-one platonic touch and relational work designed to support nervous system regulation, emotional steadiness, and clear connection. Every session is structured, consent-centered, and paced intentionally.
Platonic Touch Workshops
Group experiences blending education, embodied practice, and real conversation. Consent-centered spaces where people can explore connection in a structured, contained way.
Workshops are held two times per month, once in Sunnyvale and once in Oakland. There is often a waiting list to attend, so you are advised to purchase tickets early.
Testimonials
Breaking of a dam
Autumn facilitated the first platonic touch workshop I ever attended: by the end I felt like the breaking of a dam and a thunderclap of revelations rolled into one. The revelations centered around consent concepts (like interpreting maybe and the absence of a yes, as no; and de-horriblizing giving or receiving a no). I thought I understood consent pretty well, but the insights and skills Autumn introduced me to, empowered me in ways I’ve relied on hundreds of times since. The breaking of the dam: I attended at a touch-deprived time of my life, and sharing consensual touch released so much fear and tension in me, replacing it with a flood of assurance and openness. I felt like there should be platonic touch workshops held in every neighborhood!
And the community I met there, people invited and curated by Autumn, were so warm and open, and a handful became friends who are still regularly in my life three years later. I’m so grateful for Autumn and her work!”
— Brad
Upbeat and playful
Autumn facilitates platonic touch events with a welcoming, upbeat and playful energy and a strong foundation of integrity and focus on safety. I’ve been able to practice saying “no,” which as a survivor of sexual violence, is very important for my healing and safety. I’ve also been able to practice saying “yes” and asking for what I want, which is empowering and works to thaw the patriarchal influence that pushes me and people assigned female at birth to always be giving, never “selfish” or focused on our own desires. I’ve met some of the most important people in my life at Autumn’s events. If you are looking for safe platonic touch, community, new skills on navigating consent, and a lot of laughs, look no further than Autumn’s platonic touch events.”
— Anonymous
Comforting and patient
Autumn is such a warm, kind person. She is very comforting and patient so it helps me tremendously with any anxiety I have. Even into the next day I feel very relaxed and will be booking again soon.”
— Anonymous
Peaceful feeling
Our session resulted in the most peaceful feeling I’ve had in many years. It is not an exaggeration to say that I felt a sense of euphoria. I hope to schedule another session soon!
— Dave
Accessible
Autumn’s workshops have helped me learn about myself, grow skills, connect with others, and just be cozy and rest in myself. She creates a warm space in the room and makes things accessible and fun with her stories and spontaneous jokes!
— Jamie
My own pace
Autumn’s platonic touch workshops are incredible! Everything was very professional without losing the warm and welcoming gentleness. I felt safe to explore at my own pace without pressure or fear of being “left out” if I needed a break. It was a wonderful day of cozy cuddles, yummy snacks, and deep conversations! Can’t wait for the next one!”
— Fin
Attuned
I was very scared and overwhelmed attending my first cuddle party, and I am so grateful that Autumn was able to support me in processing afterward. Autumn was attuned to my emotions and needs and gave me the support I needed to feel heard and safe. Thank you!
— CB
Informed consent
Cuddles can be hard to find for physically affectionate asexuals. Autumn has hosted events where I could safely practice platonic physical intimacy, including the informed consent and communication to make it feel good and safe for myself and others. She cultivates a welcoming community and caring atmosphere in which I find it easy to be myself.
— Aer
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